In this episode, Jake and I start a new recurring series about books we need to read. In this episode, we discuss Dr. Gary Chapman’s book The 5 Love Languages.
You can listen here.
Key Points
- The book is based on Dr Chapman’s clinical work and qualitative research.
- Spouses in troubled marriages often suggest, “My spouse doesn’t love me anymore.” Dr Chapman has asked thousands of couples, “What would it look like if your spouse did love you?”
- The five Love Languages are the most consistent responses to that question, they are: words of affirmation, acts of service, quality time, physical touch and gifts.
- We often love other people the way we like to be loved but that doesn’t always communicate love to the other person.
- The goal is to learn your spouse or friend’s love language so your care for them is better received and more meaningful.
- We are made to love and be loved. We all have a love tank (bucket) and when it’s full we are more likely to be our truest, fullest self.
- The Sacrament of Marriage is a sacrament of service.
- Love is a language to be communicated and you have to speak in a language that your spouse/friend can understand.
- For each of the love languages there is an potential negative vice that has to be guarded against.
- The core recipe for love is to forget yourself and focus on the other.
Hope you enjoy the podcast!
Brett